Monday, September 11, 2006

holy matrimony.. whaaaa???

It has always intrigued me as to how people say they always want to get to know the person they want to get married to, prior to stepping into holy matrimony. Once they find they are incompatible, all that was shared is just lost. Excess baggage. They all want to travel light, but no one is willing to do what it takes to make sure that they do! Is it really that difficult to accept people as they are? Is it really that difficult to Love someone unconditionally? There is actually something remarkable in the concept of arranged marriage. First thing, you accept your counterpart for who they are. There are no expectations. Also the arranged marriage is something which is tested and tried over the ages. It has worked and still does. The result I think is quite visible for everyone to see- lowest number of divorce rates.
Marriage is all about give and take, isn’t it? I wouldn’t know. But that is what I believe it to be. Sacrifices have to be made. Speaking of sacrifices, its not just in people who have been legally bonded, but in any relationship, sacrifices have to be made. There are times when one of the two has to step down. Its not a competition! Its high we all realize that there is no harm in loving someone unconditionally. People make mistakes. Aren’t they allowed second chances? This love and marriage and tricky things. They more you give in them, the more you get. The more you love, the happier you are, and when I say love, I mean unconditionally. To see people separating just after a few months, is quite sad. Values are thrown out of the window and hearts are broken. For what? A measly misunderstanding which could have been sorted out with a single sorry, or even a shut mouth. But then comes out best friend EGO! EGO says, “he/she who has happiness in his/her life shall take me into his/her bosom and I shall do the rest for him/her”! Someone once said, So what’s the glory in living, doesn’t anybody ever stay together any more? And if love never, lasts forever, tell me, what’s forever for?! Food for thought.

2 comments:

Siddharth V Gurjar said...

Are you propogating arranged marriages?? The only reason they've worked is because the woman has been the one who has been subdued and the husband is in command.. it's never been a marriage.. it's been slavery..:D

Ramya said...

Very much complex!! No comments...