Saturday, November 04, 2006

Love? what does that mean?!

Its been quite some time since i got back. its been quite hectic. With hardly any sleep after my return, having to drive 400 kms and back in two days and not to mention the mosquitos in Madras! The internals have also come and passed, and now finally, i have time to sit down and do what i want to do. What do I want to do?! I haven't the slightest clue! I don't know where to start! Thoughts cluttering up my head. Im lost and all alone, I always thought i could make it on my own, I wander through the night and search the world for the words to make it right. We always have our weak moments, those vulnerable times when no mater how strong we are, that fortress in which we have locked all our feelings breaks. Its quite a difficult time. The confusion. More than the calm before the storm, its the calm after the storm that is painful. once the dust settles, the remains are seen and what a sight it is! Devastation! I also realise that the more we try to delve on abstract topics and gain some knowledge on their intricacies, the more we get tied up in them. Abstract thoughts such as Love and Love in particular are like the webs made by spiders and anyone who reflects on it, is the unsuspecting fly! The trap has been set and once you step in, there is just no going back. Mind you, i'm not talking about falling in Love. I'm only touching on the subject of thoughts on Love. What is Love?! That might sound as probably one of the most ridiculous questions. But every time i ask myself that question, i don't seem to be able to come up with an answer that convinces me! Again, let me make it clear that i'm not talking about cheap six month flings where the word Love is thrown around like a basketball and at the end of the day, its over! Is it possible to UNLOVE someone?! Why do i Love my parents?! Is it only because they have fed me, given me shelter and clothing?! Would I have still Loved them, if they had abandoned me when i was an infant?! Would I have loved the people who brought me up, or, on knowing who my real parents were, would I have loved them or despised them?! Quite the "conditional love" it seems to be! Do i love people who only mean a lot to me, or do i Love each and every human being on the face of this planet equally. I would Love, to Love all equally, but why is it so difficult?! Would it be so, because its not unconditional?! The more i try to solve this, the more i realise i can't put in equations, perform certain operations to get an answer. Is Love something that is ineffable?! I know what hate is and hate is the opposite of Love. Yet that does not seem to tell me what love is cause its only a relative position. What is Love- as an absolute entity?! Beats me!!!If we had love before, we can have it once more. anyone who can throw some light on this?!

6 comments:

therapy said...

Its probably about being attached to someone you dont need, but really want.

Woman?? said...

Therapy:
A fairly accurate description.

Jayanth:
Why is it so difficult to love all equally?
It is human nature. Human emotions are conditional.
50 people die in a bomb blast... we read about it over morning tea.
Someone close to us has a mishap... there is a swell of emotion, grief, void.
When someone passes away, one of the first questions asked is, "Was he/she close to you?".
You see, instinctively we know that the bond with someone is very very conditional.
That is the way humans are put together.
C'est la vie!

Forgive me making a lecture out of my opinion.

The topic of 'love' seems to be contagious in conversations these days.
:)

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therapy said...

Jayanth..

The director felt that some part of the man behind the Judge had a bullied, insecure persona and that took on the form of a molested woman. Sense?

Sorry I took a while, was away on a trip. Orkut is too public a forum for discussions of this sort.

Ramya said...

Well, the exact and precise definition of love is neither possible nor necessary. Love is the most powerful thing on earth. Love opens all impossible gates, it is the gate to all secrets of this universe...Love is basically unconditional, but there are many distortions to love which makes us feel love is conditional. Hatred is not opposite to love, it is just a feeling which comes and goes but love is your very own nature. And why it is so difficult to love every human being on this planet equally? Because you feel they are something apart from you. If you have the feeling of belongingness with every human on this planet(and aliens from other planets also if they exist!) it would be not so difficult! So try to know yourself and love yourself 100% then automatically you will love others without any extra effort. And as you said it is true that you can't put it in equations and perform certain operations to get answer because it is not a problem in text book with all idealized situations...! Thank you.

Ramya said...

Well, the exact and precise definition of love is neither possible nor necessary. Love is the most powerful thing on earth. Love opens all impossible gates, it is the gate to all secrets of this universe...Love is basically unconditional, but there are many distortions to love which makes us feel love is conditional. Hatred is not opposite to love, it is just a feeling which comes and goes but love is your very own nature. And why it is so difficult to love every human being on this planet equally? Because you feel they are something apart from you. If you have the feeling of belongingness with every human on this planet(and aliens from other planets also if they exist!) it would be not so difficult! So try to know yourself and love yourself 100% then automatically you will love others without any extra effort. And as you said it is true that you can't put it in equations and perform certain operations to get answer because it is not a problem in text book with all idealized situations...! Thank you.